Humility was something that was always very confusing to me.
I didn’t really understand how someone could be truly humble, or even, what it meant to be truly humble.
Humility hung out in a gray area—it definitely wasn’t pride, it was sort of like confidence but not the arrogant kind, it absolutely wasn’t thinking less of yourself, so maybe it was thinking of yourself less?
Who knew? Hello, definitely not me.
Because I didn’t understand what humility was, I never sought it out. I was content with not knowing and simply nodding my head when someone brought it up. Even though this was sheer laziness on my part, the Lord didn’t want me to lack understanding about humility—so He began to teach me about it. He allowed me to fail.
At first I was super frustrated—I had absolutely no idea what was going on and I kicked and screamed 85% of the way.
“I am not a failure! This isn’t like me—why am I not succeeding? What is going on??”
I was seemingly failing in all sorts of areas—school, friendships, family relationships, and even basic day-to-day tasks.
Coming from someone who loves being in control, this process of defining humility first seemed like I was doing something wrong. Even though I tried, and tried, and tried to make things “right,” I was still unsuccessful. I thought my relationships were failing, and no matter how hard I tried I couldn’t fix it. My confidence was still in my ability to make things right.
I don’t believe the Lord wanted me to question my identity or believe lies about my relationships or myself, but He used His redemptive process to take these failures and turn them into something constructive, something worthwhile.
The turning point in all of this happened when I dropped a full water bottle on a $1,500 computer in one of my classes. The number one rule, virtually the only rule when in a computer lab is to responsibly handle your water (for obvious reasons).
He used me dropping a water bottle on a $1,500 computer to show me that I don’t have control—even over the simplest of things.
I realized that my efforts and constant trying didn’t amount for anything apart from God. I slowly became aware of His power compared to my own, and began to realize He’s someone that I can trust.
Humility in and of itself is a deep awareness of God.
It’s clearly recognizing who He is, and believing it without hesitation.
It’s having an awareness of your shortcomings, knowing that in the midst of your iniquity He has the power to redeem. He has the power and trustworthiness to take care of you.
It’s letting go of trusting yourself and your own ability, and sitting back and relaxing with Him.
As you continually make the decision to trust Him, you realize you don’t have to rely on yourself to fight your battles. The confidence in your own ability now transfers to confidence in God’s ability.
So try letting go. Trust that He has the power to redeem the biggest and smallest of things. Really believe He is who He says He is.